Understanding for Spouse’s Primary Love Language in The 5 Love Languages

Did you know marriage should be based on love, right? But does it seem as though you and your spouse are speaking two different languages? New York Times bestselling author Dr. Gary Chapman guides couples in identifying, understanding, and speaking their spouse’s primary love language—quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, or physical touch.

By learning the five love languages, you and your spouse will discover your unique love languages and learn practical steps in truly loving each other. Chapters are categorized by love language for easy reference, and each one ends with specific, simple steps to express a specific language to your spouse and guide your marriage in the right direction. A newly designed love languages assessment will help you understand and strengthen your relationship. You can build a lasting, loving marriage together.


Gary Chapman hosts a nationally syndicated daily radio program called A Love Language Minute that can be heard on more than 150 radio stations as well as the weekly syndicated program Building Relationships with Gary Chapman, which can both be heard on fivelovelanguages.com.

The Five Love Languages is a consistent new York Times bestseller - with over 5 million copies sold and translated into 38 languages.  This book is a sales phenomenon, with each year outselling the prior for 16 years running!

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Dr. Gary Chapman has provided engaged and married couples with a wonderfully useful and clear way of discovering and communicating with each other about their most important needs. In fact, Dr. Chapman is helping us realize the ways in which we experience love differently from person to person. You may feel great love towards your partner but be expressing it in a way he or she can't readily experience because their "Love Language" is not the same.

Dr. Gary Chapman reveals, through 25 years of counseling, that he has determined people communicate love in five basic ways.They are Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Physical Touch and Giving Gifts.

If one partner can speak only Russian and the other only Spanish, is it any wonder that there are communication problems. What is obvious in spoken languages isn't so obvious in love languages. The problem with love language is that the one partner thinks the other is just speaking very poor Russian while the other thinks their partner's Spanish is just terrible.  The Five Love Language is that very important eye opener that every couple should read. It will get them on the road to speaking each others natural language.

This should have been a book written for everybody, not just for those in relationships. It helped to open my eyes up to some of the problems people have in relating to each other.

For instance, let's say somebody's love language is giving gifts and another person's love language is words of affirmation. The gift-giving person gives a gift to the words-of-affirmation person and is hurt, because the words-of-affirmation person didn't give a gift back, or didn't give words of thanks enough. What the gift-giving person didn't understand is that the other person's love language was not gifts, but words of affirmation. The words-of-affirmation person feels hurt because the gift-giving person didn't say anything about how great his job performance was, what a nice piece of poetry he had published, etc.

It is very striking how miscommunication can result from not knowing what is important to the other person as to what represents love. This is not only important in relationships, but what represents a true friend to another person. Although this book was written with relationships in mind, it can apply to other situations as well.

There are five main love languages that the author discusses, and these can applied anywhere. It would certainly help to have couples read this book before they marry, or even close friends. It would probably make for better holidays, also.